Last year at this time, My Favorite Domer was walking across the stage to accept his university diploma.
I was fretting over everything from the weather (which I couldn’t control) to what to wear (which I could). And somehow, the things I worried about faded into the background, Domer graduated, and flew far from my nest, off to the Land-of-the-North.
Where he’s thrived.
Among the things he’s learned (or had reinforced through first-hand experience):
- How to cook
- How to wash clothes and iron
- How to budget finances
- How to grocery shop
- How to find his way around town
- How to do minor home repairs
- The importance of paying bills on time
- The necessity of keeping in contact with his college friends
- The value of work
- How to get along with co-workers
- The satisfaction of a job well done
- And a host of other things
He’s learned not to let attack birds build a nest right outside his front door. And that sometimes the wind will blow even fairly full garbage cans down the street, scattering pizza boxes throughout the neighborhood.
He’s learned that cold — such as this winter’s bitter offering — is a fact of life in the Land-of-the-North. He’s learned to manage his time and get sufficient sleep for the next day. He’s learned that certain things — like finding the right church — make a new place feel less strange and that staying in touch with home isn’t a sign of weakness.
Not to brag or anything, but I couldn’t be more proud.
Like my friend Katybeth, I don’t parent for an audience. Parenting isn’t for the faint of heart. It’s hard, demanding work, 24/7/365, and despite one’s best efforts, things don’t always go according to plan.
Kids rebel. Turn to the Dark Side. Or fail to launch.
I’ve been blessed. So has Domer. With gainful employment in the World of Work, he doesn’t have to return home and mark time for what could be years before this economy turns around.
Yes, I could’ve swooped in and micromanaged for him, but look how ignorant he’d still be!
Obviously, if he needs me, I’ll be there. His safety net, so to speak. But in the meantime, we’re both enjoying his progress.
What’s one of the important things you learned on your first job out of school?